Generic best practices in this 101 guide to setting yourself up for dating success.

Here’s a handy guide for Men to follow when making a dating profile and engaging the opposite sex.

Dating shouldn’t be hard, the people that tend to make it so are not the ones you want to end of up.

Trust ME !!!

Here are some of the red flags I wrote for guys to watch out for.

There is an app for everything now so for all of our own sakes let’s not muddy the waters and keep turning out jaded females who want to watch the world burn.

Best Practices for Guys

Understand the type of girl you are looking for. While opposites sometimes attract you are speaking to an audience that doesn’t think the same as you.

Your Profile

AVOID

General best practices avoid the following stuff (obvious to some but you’d be surprised)
– Religion
– Politics
– Any hate speech or off-color remarks
– Negative tone about yourself
– Bringing up the ex or any ex

Additional things to avoid that I’ll explain
– Jokes and sarcasm
    > I know you think you are funny but trust me she can’t see you winking. Humor is very difficult to pull it off as the person reading it likely over thinking things because most people lie on dating apps.
– Putting yourself down or Admitting past mistakes
   > So it’s okay to be vulnerable, and talk about your growth from life lessons learned but never get into specifics. More questions than answers start to happen and you’ll put her guard up right away.

The Words That Define You

Covering All the Apps

This is generational. If you are attempting to date anyone under 39 less is more these days. With the exception of someone who is just coming off of a long-term relationship where communication and a verbal connection was lacking most females what something fun, functional, and favorable for them.

Focus on covering off the basics then poking the bear with simple questions that make things light and easy to deal with. The goal is to engage her on the phone, video chat, or jumping to in-person (unless she’s calling out “where are you taking me $$$”

• For the ones that have values and are seeking a degree of established communication
  (typically the paid sites like eHarmony, Match, anything religious…)

You want to highlight your best features and attributes. Women are attracted to a variety of things and you don’t have to hit every checkbox on the criteria list. Confidence is sexy when it’s balanced in the right way.

3 Things Women tend to think of:

1. Can he protect me? (in a variety of ways)
2. What will other people think about him and/or me?
3. Will I be happy? What will I gain or loss?

How do you break it all down?  – Abilities, Attributes, and Assets

– Unique skill-sets (mental & physical talents) personality, intelligence, learned abilities,
– Looks + Physical Attributes: (Attractiveness overall, height, muscle tone, single highlighted feature {face, chest, calves, stomach, hair, your Johnson, etc…}
– Occupation + Social Class: Power, Respect, Influence, Clout
– Money & Wealth
– Objects + Possessions

Okay — So What Do I Write!?!

Understand who you want to deal with (https://mylifeofcrumbs.com/there-are-four-types-of-dating-profiles/) then play off of them to keep it light, upbeat, and simple.

Topics you should touch upon or make your focus:
> Passion points
> Things you like – Music, Movies, TV shows, something that might touch upon an aspect of your personality
> Simple joy – unique hobbies or talents,
> Common attributes – What’s something you want to be able to share or have in common with someone?
> Food- this is a tricky one but a F-ton of people have bizarre eating habits these days.

Idiot-Proof the Conversation + Ice-breaker

• What’s the best way to get to know you. Everyone tends to be a bit different these days.
• Glad we matched, let’s share a few basics about ourselves and maybe touch upon a value we embrace
• Hi ___________ I saw you are into ________what’s the ___(PAST EXAMPLE)___? <Then the next time or plan to do —–?>
• Hello, ________ are you originally from the area?

Smart Answers to Common Female Questions:

What are you looking for: (testing how much of a man-ho you might be)
>Don’t we all want the fairytale and find the other person that finally gets us?

>but that takes time, so someone smart and attractive I can communicate with. From there it’s up to us to figure it out

What’s your type?

• Looks get you in the front door, personality seals the deal. It’s difficult for me to specifically say things in terms of a list of criteria. Everyone in my life is unique to me, and I form 1 to 1 relationships as a result… So I guess that means I avoid generic people, IDK – impossible to tell either of our life stories but let’s start somewhere and see if we click/vibe.

Hi! <yes this is not a question, she’s telling you she want’s to be chased after>

If the vibe is good and there’s a flow to the conversation you can get into pet peevs and things like food but those can be rabbit holes or entrapment with the wrong person. Keep it positive and avoid topics that will cost you money down the road.

PROFILE EXAMPLE & BULLET-POINTS

Hoping people read this. Online dating in the XXXX area is a little wacky in these modern times. I would like to meet some with beauty + brains who can keep up with me, as well as keep me on my toes while we inspire each other to be better. Looks get you a foot in the door but personality seals the deal. Most people like movies, music, travel, good food, and time with friends… so let’s focus on what makes us unique and a little different.

No life story intended but some bullet points to get things going

Goals: See more things, do more things…

ADJECTIVE ABOUT YOU with a passion for XXXX, being XXXX, XXXX, and to see the world. I can have fun anywhere as long as I’m surrounded by the right people

STATS (height/weight) _____  person who enjoys a variety of things with a degree of balance between them

ideally for cool people who are easy to communicate with – but, this is xxxx so … let’s just ease into things and figure it out