A Notion on How to Define True Love in America

As we all know ‘Merica was founded by a bunch of prudes and zealots escaping Europe so they build a better world – full of repressed (God-Fearing) people, who entrust corporate Shepard’s to spread sheep-minded redundancies, then water it down with some generic BS, and chop it up for digestion by classifying each generational mindset with a label that mocks who they are.

Got Love?

Oh wait, maybe it’s the love McDonalds has taught us.

That special American love that only makes sense when it must, like in movies, within Hallmark greeting cards, and of course the only day you need to care Valentine’s Day.

Might make sense for us to understand how other cultures view the “condition” of love.

Without boring you too much I’ll just share my top of mind example. Fitting that is comes from our favorite Gyro friends and cradle of West Culture – Greece

Here’s my breakdown of the components that define “True Love”, the type of love the makes you want to be with someone for the rest of your life.

Four Connection Components

Head – The logic and reason behind what we think, why we think it and how it will develop. If you’re a capitalist you make equate this to a SWOT analysis (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats) but for people with a balance of morals / ethics / humility it’s best to think of it as:

• Can I effectively communicate with this person?
• Are we on the same socio-economic level?
• Pet-Peeves and differences you can work through to find a degree of balance…

Body – Very self-explanatory

• Are you attracted to this person?
• Is the sex good?
• Will we make beautiful babies?

Heart – A lot of people mix up and combine the heart and soul. I look at the heart as the “Hallmark” version of love.

• Signs of affection
• Acts of kindness
• Degrees of sacrifice (on both sides!)

For example: if your boo or best friend needs a ride to the airport, yea it’s a pain in the ass and you rather not do it but you will because you care about them and you know they would do it for you which makes you want to.

Soul – Do you believe in magic? A degree of unexplainable mood/feeling/emotions that allow you to understand things through some connection that has form between you and the other person? Tough to explain as it changes & adapts throughout the relationship. I’ll try to sum it up best as a “pure essence”.

I used to think that was BS but I’ve experienced this twice in my life. Powerful as anything else you can imagine. Also makes a lot of those sappy love songs make a bit more sense.  

So What Does All This Mean?

A physical (BODY) connection is the easiest to obtain and skews way too much of the other components meant to act as ‘checks & balances’

The SOUL connection by far the hardest as both sides have to give a part of themselves to make it work.

1 out of 4 – Easy, happens all the time

2 out of 4 – Hope we both had fun… moving on

3 out of 4 – Should either of us settle???

4 out of 4 – Are we on the same page getting a pre-nup?

Ellis Paul’s Poem – Love’s Too Familiar A Word